Saturday, July 17, 2010

Sexy in 6x

So my bloggy friend Susie over at Motherhoot wrote a great post last week about how girls today dress like hootchies.  Susie has three sons -- 17 year old twins and an 11 year old -- and is obviously concerned that slutty girls will be all there is for them to choose from.  I'm not sure that they share her concern, but that's another story.  Susie puts the responsibility for this on the mothers of these daughters who allow them to leave the house looking like Times Square hookers, and I don't disagree.

I'm here to tell you that this phenomenon starts much earlier than high school or junior high.  Or even 2nd grade.  As soon as Audrey grew out of toddler size clothes and into 6x it became much more difficult to find her cute, little-girlish clothes.  All of a sudden everything seemed to have metallic patches, glitter thread, rhinestone studs, or Hannah Montana's likeness on it.  I should qualify all of this by saying that it's difficult to find cute girls clothes on the cheap, e.g.: at Kohl's and Target where I was used to shopping for her.  If I was willing to spend the money for Lands End or Mini-Boden or Hanna Andersson, she could look like Violet Affleck.  But I'm not, so she doesn't.

One of our bigger issues is shoes.  Audrey didn't walk until she was almost 2, and still has poor gross motor skills.  Which is fancy talk for being clumsy and uncoordinated.  She needs a lot of stability in her shoes, and can't manage anything like flip-flops or clogs.  And once your feet grow past size 10, the shoes become increasingly backless and heeled.  Meaning that you can't get these anymore...
 Just these... 

 


Audrey could never manage those ^ , let alone these...
Yes, these are for realsies.  Girls shoes sold by Target, starting in size 12 which is Audrey's current size.  Audrey would break an ankle, at minimum, before walking 5 steps in these.  Since her legs have the circumference of a 9-iron, she would probably break a lot more.  But even if she could walk in these without risking traction, I would never buy them.  They're ugly and completely age-inappropriate.  Mamas, don't let your babies grow up to Lohans.

18 comments:

  1. Ah, my love hate relationship with Target for The Boy's clothes. It seems like yesterday when he was four turning five and wearing cute little t-shirts with GO TEAM! or little bears waving on them. And now that he's five turning six you have to cross the aisle at Target from toddler to Big Boys and everything has skulls on them. HE'S MY BAAAAAABYYYYYYY!

    Cute shoes, though.

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  2. When my daughter was in preschool, I remember thinking some of the girls bought their clothes at Slutty Toddlers R Us! LOL! It's crazy! I have had luck with getting cute clothes at Target that are age-appropriate. Children's place also has cute clothes. I agree about the high heels! That is just insane!

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  3. OMG u r so right
    I have often thought this myself - that why are we forcing this grown up stuff sexy stuff on little kiddos
    there was a you tube video with a bunch of 7 year olds that someone did a post on - they were dancing to Single ladies ( and they were all very talented dancers ) but they were all dancing in such a risque fashion - it was quite appalling

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  4. Uh, yeah. Same problem outfitting our five-year-old for Kindergarten. I want her body parts covered, and not, as you mentioned, in anything sequenced or metallic. Apparently that's a very tall order these days.

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  5. I didn't even think about this from the boy's perspective. Skulls, and the shirts with sayings like "Here Comes Trouble" or "My Drunk Daddy Ate My Homework" or whatever. The girls equivalent being the "Diva" and "Spoiled Rotten" t-shirts that might as well say "Future Stripper".

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  6. I'm not letting mine grow up to be Lohan if I can help it...

    You ever been to a Justice store? I heard someone refer to the style as "Prostitots" or was it "Totstitutes"? Either way... I don't want mine dressing like a slut until she's old enough to actually be one...

    *kidding*

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  7. OMG, "Totsitutes" is the funniest thing I've heard in a long time!

    Seriously, the little girl clothes are out of hand. Did you hear about the "Stripper poles for tweens" they had for sale in the UK? Seriously. They had to take them off the shelves because of understandable protests but they were totally selling them for a while -- I think at Argos.

    I have a boy, but we have shoe problems too. He's a toe-walker a lot of the time (common spectrum problem) with some serious coordination issues. The only shoes we can get that don't hang on something or come flying off are sneakers. And in FL in the summer, that is SO hot.

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  8. I totally agree. Katis is my amazon child and was in the big kids section at Target at 4. Um...no. She wore a lot of jeans and plain T's, as everything else was way too hooch. Sometimes I find cute stuff at Gymboree on super sale, but it is definitely hard trying to dress a little girl cute these days. And the shoes...Katie is 6 1/2 and cannot, for the life of her, walk in flip flops. And gross motor has always been her forte, although not so much the motor planning...we spend buko bucks on shoes she can walk in. Sigh...

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  9. Seriously love this post. It's even hard to find little girl clothes for Georgia, and she's not even 2 yet! All the t-shirts say "Diva" or "Drama Queen" with big sparkly lipstick kisses. We mostly just shop at the Children's Place, where I can buy plain t-shirts at a reasonable cost. I cannot believe any mother is going to let their 6 year old wear wedge heels - can you imagine the arch damage that kid is going to have by 20?

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  10. I am all too frequently appalled when I see little girls walking with small sized platforms covered in bling or some such copy of adult women's shoes or pre-teen girls in tight jeans, bellies showing and long earrings that I might wear and lipstick too. I can't fathom parents who think this is - I have no idea what they are thinking. I just don't get it. It actually makes my stomach turn. How will this girls turn out as women?
    I can just imagine mom and little daughter in the dressing rooms - "oh that's so adorable". What's adorable about a little girl looking like a slut?

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  11. Good post, and well put, and sooo very true. Shoes are an issue, for sure. Although, I think there are some decent clothing at Target for girls. My 10 year old dresses nice...modest, and she gets clothing from Target or Old Navy. My older girls...a bit more difficult but they still dress modestly, I think. I have a bit of the opposite problem though, my soon to be 15 year old wears a size 5...very difficult to find cute 15 year old type shoes as it seems manufacture think size 5 equates grade school or jr high age kids. Have resorted to online shopping.

    For little girls, and boys...why are sandals all with open toes? Why? My boy would kill his toes if he wore those. I have found Keens to be good shoes for him, and Audrey may do well with them. They are more expensive than Target... $35 but I like them a whole lot. I don't worry about him falling as much as I did with his other shoes. I found them in a Uncle Dan's sporting store in Highland Park. Maybe you have the store near you, or kid Keen shoes in another store. Oh...the kid Keens could cost you up to $60 but I opted out of that. ;)

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  12. I have two girls (ages 10 and almost 6) and I have been experiencing your same clothing and shoe issues for years! I started a blog (www.kidsclothingdiscounts.com) where I try to find cute, REASONABLY priced, age appropriate clothes for kids (mostly girls). For instance, right now at Olive Juice Kids, they have a bunch of summer stuff marked down to $5, $10 and $15. Their stuff is beautiful and their fabrics are super soft. For shoes I really rely on Zappos. I buy a bunch of shoes in different sizes, they overnight them to me (usually for free!), we try everything on and then I ship back what I don't want (also for free.) It saves me from a huge headache at the shoe store or Target.

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  13. Crap, I never even thought about shoes! Since I have all boys, they only wear sneakers. And I'm pretty much living in Crocs--which do come in kid sizes and they have great sales at times.

    The marketing of our girls as Hootchie Mamas--Future Lohans--needs to end!

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  14. Oh, please don't mention Hannah Montana. That child is a drug rehab/star burnout waiting to happen!

    I've noticed that too that a lot of little girl's clothing is "blinged" out. I love bling on clothes, even when I was Audrey's age, but it has to be done appropriately, not like a Las Vegas show girl costume. Kudos to you for trying to keep your little girl looking like a little girl!!!

    (Even I have a problem with flip flops and I'm athletic!!)

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  15. For us it was the transition from 6x to 7 with my older girl that really brought home how hard it was to find decent inexpensive non-skank stuff. I've bent a little bit on glitter and metallic when it's in a peace-love-hippie-ish vein. But no hooker-wear here. Gah.

    Thanks for dropping by Elvis Sightings! :-)

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  16. I'm not alone!! I just did a blog post on this, myself! "size 2 and slutty jeans" for my 7 year year old. I was just trying to buy her plain.old.jeans. No bling. No glitter. No SKULLS. (and really? what's THAT about?) No shirt that said, "you can't touch this" Recently I needed a plain white turtle neck. Kohls does not sell them. Nope. How is that even possible?? They sell things all slutt-ed up, but not a simple turtle neck??

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  17. @Kim: we are so in sync on this. Good luck finding a plain white turtleneck...you'll probably end up having to go online..so sad!

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  18. This page reminded me of a book I read once. Good stuff...

    http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Dressing-Your-Six-Year-Old-Skank/dp/0312339933

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