Wednesday, May 18, 2011

Flattery Will Get You Everywhere?

As we all know, social graces are not our kids' forte.  We've only just recently convinced Audrey that it's not good form to point at a kid and holler "He's gotta go!" whenever she encounters one.  We gave her some suggested options for opening lines that are slightly less belligerent, one of which was to give the child a complement.

Well, she has seized on this one with both hands to the point that before she's even gotten a good look at the kid she's all "I like your...", as she madly scopes them out for something to complement.

I like your pearls...
Her #1 go-to complement is hair-related, as in "I like your headband / bun / ponytail / clip / new haircut / curls."  Next are accessories, "I like your earrings / necklace / sunglasses / glasses / nail polish / scarf."  If all else fails, there's every article of clothing under the sun, "I like your shirt / skirt / dress / shoes / sweater / coat / jeans / shorts."

These are mostly doled out to females, and I'm not sure what she says to the boys at school.  One time we were outside and a man walked by with a dog, and I heard Audrey say "I like your earrings" but I couldn't tell if he was really wearing earrings.

Audrey adores her BFF Grace Anne, so I'm sure that GA is the recipient of many complements throughout the school day.  She being quite the fashion plate and frequent headband-wearer, Audrey probably slathers her with praise and is all out of complements by 9:30.  So tapped out was she one day that the following exchange was overheard:

Audrey:  "Grace Anne, I like your wart."
Grace Anne:  "Why, thank you!"


                           Equally fashionable

26 comments:

  1. I think I need to hang out with Audrey...I could use some of that! :)

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  2. Well?? How do you think the poor wart would have felt if she had pointed at it and said "He's gotta go!!" ???

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  3. HAHA...Katie does this same thing. The second she sees someone it's, I like your...she totally gives them the once over, looking for something to compliment. I think they work on this at school with her. Thus far, she hasn't complimented anyone's warts, though, and ew...thanks for the pic.

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  4. That's a lovely post you wrote today, Mrs. Cleaver, er Lynn. ;)

    I like how our kids take everything to an extreme, but in this case, that's not so bad. Does Audrey revert to "He's gotta go!" after giving the compliment or is she more tolerant?

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  5. HaHa!! We worked on this and Alex so very proudly walked up to his teacher and said, "Hi Mrs. S. I like your back fat!!!"

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  6. Ah hahaha! These kids say the darndest things! Thankfully, most of the time, my kiddos say these "precious" things at home. I have not heard of any backhanded complements at school...yet.

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  7. Still an improvement over "He's gotta go!" Although how much fun would it be to be able to say that whenever you wanted? I'd be using it all the time! At work, at the store, at the park... "He's gotta go!"

    Lynn, I like your... punctuation.

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  8. If she just isn't the squeeziest nugget! I love that Grace Anne was equally flattered by this compliment.

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  9. She's awesome. I like your wart. Although, I'd like to take her with me to some family functions and let her loose with that 'he's gotta go!' deal. She's a smart girl.

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  10. Haha, I love it. My daughter used to tell people they needed to go as well, however, she would point them in the direction she wanted them to go. "Grammy, go make dinner!" "Grandpa, go work in the garden!" "Ricky (my brother), go work on the computer!" Sometimes when she was out of options, she would make things up. "John, go ride a circus elephant!!"

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  11. I don't see what was wrong with "He's gotta go." I say that all the time. Is that wrong?

    Also, not everyone can pull off a big, unsightly wart. No, it's a special person that can work that accessory, and they should well be complimented.

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  12. Audrey didn't give me any compliments when we hung out at Disney. Not one. Maybe I need to grow some warts like her mom.

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  13. Think of that poor, neglected wart and how Audrey made its day by saying she liked it! And Grace Anne, owner of said wart, was just as pleased to be complimented on her special accessory!
    Given that you are considering mainstreaming Audrey, I think that having an issue with being overly sweet and complimentary is far better for her existence than to have a royal attitude of summary dismissal. School is like survivor, but she is not Jeff Probst!

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  14. AHAHAHAHA that's awesome. Audrey's my hero!

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  15. And once again it is the autistic kids that behave delightfully!

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  16. When Audrey see's me, she just says "I like Aimee. " She obviously can't decide what to compliment me on.

    I kind of wish Audrey would tell her "It's got to go!" Then maybe she'd be willing to remove it from her finger. Peer pressure! Peer pressure!

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  17. @Jen: Do not...I repeat, DO NOT...ever do a Google Image search on "warts".

    @Yuji: She's gotten much better about the "he's gotta go" stuff, but I think we need to push the needle that's stuck in the complement groove. Yeah, I'm old. They're called records people.

    @Lizbeth: I've found the man of my dreams!

    @KimT: Audrey does a little of that too...the telling people specifically where they can go. So far she's kept it clean. I really like the circus elephant thing...kind of a slam, but not too obviously.

    @Aimee: It strikes me that I should have made it absolutely clear that the wart is on her finger.

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  18. LMAO! I just love that "He's got to go!!" Cracks me up every time!

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  19. A true friend is one that finds the beauty in your warts!

    LOL

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  20. Little Miss prefers to greet people by yelling "AAAAH" in their faces... it's taken a long time to get past that one. I can't wait until she's got enough language for the complement thing... sounds way more productive -- apparently just as awkward but way more productive :-)

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  21. Could have done without the wart photo, but otherwise, this is adorable.

    Can't wait to hear what is going to come out of Moe's mouth someday. I'm sure it's going to be inappropriately hilarious.

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  22. hahahahaha! I love our kids!

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  23. Only a true BFF could be grateful for a wart compliment. Grace Ann is one good BFF! (I will have to teach this method to my son. Right now, he just walks up to strangers, points to them, looks at me and says, "Who's that?")

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  24. Awww. I bet she'd tell me she likes my frizzy gray hair and poor posture!

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